Behavior Translator

Type in what your teenager said or did.
Get back what's underneath and exactly what to say.

You type
"My 14-year-old told me to leave him alone and slammed his door when I asked how school was."
You get back
🔍 What's underneath

His nervous system is still completely flooded from the school day. Making eye contact and answering questions feels vulnerable right now and his brain is choosing shutdown over connection because it's safer. The slam is frustration at being approached before he's had time to regulate.

💬 What to say
  • "Hey, I'm here whenever you're ready."
  • "No rush. Dinner's on the counter."
  • "I'm not going anywhere."
🚫 What not to say
  • "What is your problem?"
  • "I was just asking a simple question."
  • "You don't talk to me like that."
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Built by Jake Gainey, M.S., Adolescent and Parent Coach